学会这几招,你再也不用和老外尬聊!
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发布时间：2023-02-18 17:44
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时间：2023-02-18 22:05
编者按：尬聊掀起了一阵微博舆论，尬聊就是聊天过程中出现了尴尬的情况，大家都在讨论尬聊这个话题，尬聊四句话什么呢?尬聊这个词用英语怎么解释?能解决尬聊这个话题吗？
In Chinese, these moments are known as 尬聊 (gàliáo), literally “embarrassing chat”, with 尬 (gà) from 尴尬 (gāngà, embarrassment) and 聊 (liáo) meaning“chat.”
One famous offender is Chen Luyu(陈鲁豫), one of several TV hosts dubbed by some as “China’s Oprah” due to her popular talk show "A Date With Luyu", but who might as well be well-known for her regular 尬聊 (gàliáo/embarrassing chat) moments. Once, when her guest Zhang Chaoyang, CEO of Sohu, described being “on a plane, watching the moon in the night sky, full of emotions…” Chen interrupted to ask, “How could you see the moon in the plane?” “Because the plane has windows,” Zhang politely explained, after a meaningful if brief pause. Viewers remarked:
主持人又在尬聊了。
Zhǔchírén yòu zài gàliáo le.
The host is embarrassingly chatting again.
"Embarrassing talk" doesn’t have to be one-sided: It can refer to any conversation that takes place in an awkward atmosphere. This might be a bad date (“我们完全就是在尬聊。Wǒmen wánquán jiùshì zài gàliáo. We were totally embarrassingly chatting.”) or an unsuccessful negotiation. (“什么也没谈成，就是在尬聊。Shénme yě méi tán chéng, jiùshì zài gàliáo. Nothing was settled, just an embarrassing chat.”)
With the term so commonly used, some people have begun to reflect on the fact that they feel embarrassed so frequently,
But unlike real cancer, there are straightforward cures to embarrassment, such as thinking before you speak, or just finding a new circle of friends.
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时间：2023-02-18 19:13
他们行走江湖，我行我素，常被冠以 “话题终结者” 或 “冷场王” 之类的名号。一旦他们插话，其他所有人都不知该如何接话，继而制造出全场寂静的肃穆氛围。
当然，小山我肯定不是“这样的朋友”。我自诩和谁都能谈笑风生，抛梗接梗游刃有余……
直到我在公交上遇见同班的外国友人，*同行，全程尬聊。整场最自然的部分竟然是相互问候 “How are you” ？！
小山对此耿耿于怀，还一直归咎于自己英文水平有限。如果你们也有类似的困扰，同时为口语能力自惭形秽，那么这……
纯属对自身能力的误解！
今天，你就可以 彻底告别和歪果仁尬聊的窘境！ 熟练把控 Small Talk的节奏！ 让你在闲谈中尽显气度，撩妹撩汉，收获友谊，认知世界。
视频中，Cambly 的外教 Christy 为大家精心总结了：
4条 与人交流的礼仪！
6类 万能谈论的话题！
4个 需要避免的雷区！
Small Talk 当然不能直译为“讲小话”，它的意思其实就是“闲聊”。关键在于，闲聊也得聊得下去！缺乏谈话技巧，或触及敏感话题，对话自然难以为继。 因此以下4条礼仪要谨记：
[1] Don’t have a pre-prepared list of questions that you intend to ask your conversation partner.
切记不要像审讯犯人一样，在心里准备一张问题清单然后逐一发问！这好比过年走访亲戚，有些叔啊姨啊就爱问：“在哪儿上学啊？期末成绩怎么样啊？语文多少分？英语多少分……”实在是让人 Annoyed！
[2] Do not pick very complicated or random topics to talk about.
闲聊的时候咱就别谈过于沉重、深奥的问题了。比如“听闻你这次考试挂科了，别太难过啊！”或者“诶你知道吗？美颜功能实际上是通过傅里叶变换实现的。”分分钟不想理你。
[3] Try to find topics of common interest.
找到共同话题很重要，否则就是鸡同鸭讲。
[4] Body language is key! Make sure you use the right hand gestures and maintain eye contact when necessary.
朋友们，舞动起来！在谈话过程中使用合理恰当的手势，以及保持眼神接触，表示你在专注倾听，会让对方感受到你对他的重视。
英国人是出了名的喜欢聊天气。其实不光是英国人，中国人见面都会聊聊雾霾晴雨。可见“天气”真是非常合适的开场白：
-Beautiful day, isn't it?
-Can you believe all of this rain we've been having?
-It's a bit warm/cold for this time of year, isn't it?
每个人都喜欢谈论自己感兴趣的话题。如果恰好戳中对方的兴趣点，我相信对方会乐于分享他们的故事。
-What do you enjoy doing on weekends?
-Who do you do it with?
-Do you like shopping?
Ambience 可以理解为环境、氛围。搭讪的时候，因为你和对方同处在一个场所，必然会对周围的环境有所见解。
-This is a beautiful place, isn’t it?
-Have you been here before?
-What kind of parties do you like?
“世界这么大，我想去看看。”除了少数巨宅控，大多数朋友都热爱旅游！尤其是歪果仁，包括 Cambly 上的好多外教，他们的足迹遍布东西半球。谈谈旅游度假准没错！
-Do you enjoy traveling?
-Have you gone on a vacation recently?
-What kind of cuisine do you like to try when you are on a vacation?
实在无话可说，就聊日常吧。哪怕是像流水账一般分享自己的一天，也足以应付闲谈的几分钟啦！
-How has your day been so far?
-Has anything exciting happened today?
-Are you doing anything fun after class?
俗话说，擅长察言观色的朋友运气不会差。观察力的确是非常重要的能力！比如观察到对方穿了新装，就夸赞一番，对方心里一定乐滋滋的。
- I love your shoes today, they really pull your outfit together.
-Did you see? They finally fixed the light in the break room. It’s been broken for almost a month!
[1] Avoid sensitive topics like Age, politics, religion, salary, relationships, and marital status in the first conversation.
避免在首次谈话中涉及敏感话题，如年龄、*倾向、宗教信仰、薪资、婚恋状况。小山觉得，此处还应该加上“体重”，别一来就问女生的体重，ok？
[2] Don’t talk about deep issues.
再次强调，不要讨论沉重繁杂的问题。闲谈不是要谈协议签合同或者心理咨询，切记把握话题的深度。
[3] Don’t enforce your opinions on others.
不要把你的观点强加到别人身上！这非常强势无礼。
[4] Don’t use your phone or be distracted by other things while having a conversation.
专注倾听是基本礼仪，请给予对方足够的尊重，不要在别人说话的时候东张西望甚至自顾自地玩手机。
呼！长篇大论完毕，希望大家有所收获！也欢迎大家连线 Christy Kon！
